When you find out….

Not understanding or considering how much people matter is one thing. BUT!!!!!! When you have the understanding… now that is another thing. You have just transcended from the unknown and you have information that gives you a better understanding of how much people matter… now we need to apply that. Now you may be saying, “Shana, how will I apply this?” For years I honestly didn’t understand how to do that. How to make sure that I let people know how much they matter. Believe it or not, this is a pivotal part in how your relationships develop. As I am in this journey with my loved one, I am in a position where I make sure that the people that I come in contact with know how much they matter not just in my situation, but period. For example, my loved one’s Mon-Fri. nurse comes 8 hours a day. I always make sure that in those 8 hours, I come in and just have regular conversation. I just don’t want to trust them, I want them to trust me also. It takes a while to establish trust. I am honest, clear and concise in my communication and also respectful. I leave opportunity for them to flex the expertise muscle so I am able to learn. We don’t just talk about my loved one either, we also talk about life, things they like and vice versa. Remember, I want to let them know…they matter. Sometimes that looks like me treating her to lunch, or her treating me. Which is important to understand because when we are in service of others, when we treat them with respect, when we communicate with them well,… it’s reciprocity at it’s finest. Literally, the other day, she took me to Insomnia Cookies. Granted, I had no business being there, but she insisted. I mean, what was I suppose to do?? LOL! So in a nutshell, what I am saying is that when you find out that people matter, and begin to treat them that way, you are on your way to a beautiful relationship. So until we meet again… remember that people matter and so do you!